We'd always said that when we were done having kids, my husband would go in for the snip. I'm not sure who's idea it was first or when it first came up. It just kind of made sense between us. After Little Boss was born, hubby started looking up more information about vasectomies, and we decided for sure.
It took me awhile to accept that we're done. We always said that we wanted at least three kids, but no more than five. We have three beautiful healthy children, and we remember the one we don't have with us. Being told by medical professionals and experts that we shouldn't have more kids (due to my extensive scar tissue, high risk of another ectopic pregnancy, etc.) and deciding it on our own is different though. After a lot of discussion and thought and meditation and prayer and time with my family, I feel good about it. We're done. Our family is complete.
So he went in for the snip. He was remarkably calm about the whole thing and seemed to take it pretty well in stride. Now we just have to wait for the tests to make sure that it took.
It is a little bittersweet, and it's weird to think that we can't have kids anymore. I'll never take another pregnancy test or scrutinize the screen at the ultrasound to find out what we're having or hold our newborn baby with their special newborn baby smell. On the other hand, I'm really excited not to have to worry about contraception anymore, and to know. We're finished having kids.
In the time that we've been married, I've spent most of it either pregnant or breastfeeding. It will be a change, but a good one. Our family's moving on.