It's been about two months now since I lost my baby because it was an ectopic pregnancy. I had a follow up appointment with the specialist at the hospital. Tactfully, the appointment was not in the maternity ward. In fact, I seemed to be surrounded in the waiting room mostly by old people waiting for blood tests.
I'm not sure what I expected from my follow up appointment, but this wasn't it. First of all, it was extremely brief. The doctor asked if my wounds were healed, and I said yes. He didn't look at them at all. He asked if I'd started my period again yet, and I answered no. He said to expect them to be abnormal for a few months when I do restart and that it's normal for your cycle to take awhile to be regular again. Then he asked if we were planning for another baby in the future, and advised us to wait at least three months (from the time of the surgery) and until I had had a normal period. Then he said goodbye. The whole appointment lasted about two minutes tops.
I had expected to be given more long-term information and more discussion, but I'm not really sure what the purpose of the appointment was as the doctor didn't actually check anything or tell me anything that I hadn't been told in the hospital at the time. Also, although he spoke about ectopic pregnancies in general, I felt like he wasn't very particular about my circumstances. I got the impression that he hadn't bothered to read over my notes, and that he just wanted to get rid of me and my husband as quickly as possible so that he could go on with his day.
It was all completely medical. I could have been recovering from any surgery (as far as the doctor's statements went).
I really wish medical care was more personal.